Easysticks - by the Cain Sosnoff family

From my own mother:

Some thoughts about Aunt Hood. My first niece was Kirsten. I was 18 years old and was on McNeil Island when I got the phone call. She was adorable, only 5 lb 12 oz. They visited a lot and when I got my job the next year, I used to give Ginny money for Easter candy and I remember buying tennis shoes for Kirsten’s one year. I always used to send birthday cards, this year I was remiss. Kirsten really appreciated it. All you have to do is just be yourself and the baby will love you.

One notable difference: I am 10 years older than my own mother was when she became an aunt. I can see advantages and disadvantages to this age difference. Most likely I have more means than my 18 year old mother did (better/more gifts?), but I think the older I am, the less cool I automatically become in the eyes of my nephew. I might be more mature and responsible but perhaps less fun?

So maybe everyone’s seen the Social Security Popular Baby Names. You can see how baby names rank throughout the years. My name was 270th the year I was born. It was way more poplar in the early 1900s, ranking 19th both in 1910 and 1907. Fine by me.

iVillage has got a great visualization tool for this database called NameVoyager.

I have only ever named cats and that’s hard enough. A baby will eventually be able to give feedback, so that eliminates a lot of choices that would normally be available. Muffin. Spike. Boo Boo. That sort of thing.

Names can morph, too. The unfortunate rhyme of my name, Annie Fannie, eventually evolved into Fonk and then Fonklure Manure.

As an aunt, I suppose I will be able to come up with my own pet name for the little fella. At least until he has something to say about it.

Hunting around for aunt lessons, I happened upon this little story:

An Expert’s Lessons on Being an Aunt

Though I can’t promise to remain single and devote my entire life to the “profession of auntship” I think I can take away one solid piece of advice.  Letter writing is important.  Why, I wrote one just the other day.  In fact, every time I feel I’ve been wronged, out goes a letter.  While auntship letter writing isn’t designed to elicit an apology and possible coupon or gift card, I think the skills will transfer.

Okay, so I’ll start here where I started myself.  At the library, of course.  I went into the library catalog and, feeling smug about my librarian skills, went straight for the subject headings.  I punch in ‘aunts’ and nothing looks too promising.  In fact, one heading stops me in my tracks:

Aunts — Crimes Against

At that point, I decide against subject headings and scour the catalog using keywords.  There wasn’t much to be had.  I tried Amazon as well and there were no how-to or dummies books for aunthood.  The only title I might try to track down is The Uncle Book: Everything You Need to Know to Be a Kid’s Favorite Relative.  It really seems to address my mission as an aunt and mentions Nintendo.  Hopefully it isn’t too man-centric.